7 Simple Ways to Ease into Solo Travel If It's Your First Time
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My first time ever actually solo traveling was when I was in college, and it started the way many college students’ travel journeys start: studying abroad in one of the most beautiful old cities in Europe – Florence, Italy. If you've ever studied abroad, you know that those 6 months FLY by. You arrive in foreign territory, bright-eyed and bushy-tailed, eager to set off on a crazy adventure. You make friends. You learn how to not get lost wandering the streets. Before you know it, this foreign land starts to feel like the home you never knew you had.
Quick trip down memory lane?
Sure, why not.
Halfway through the semester, and after a few months of traveling with my newfound friends, I realized I had only a few more empty weekends left until my adventure was over. I legitimately went into a state of panic. With little thought or research, and feeling a little reckless, I decided to head off on a weekend trip to Lisbon, Portugal, solo. In retrospect, it was one of the coolest and bravest things I did before turning 20 (way to go, Baby Off Duty!). I think there's a sort of fearlessness that washes over you when you study abroad, and sometimes that sense of unabashed bravery can fade when you return home. And for those of us who haven’t studied abroad, it’s an even more distant, uncomfortable idea. Why travel to a foreign country where you don’t know a single person? Why go alone? Who would you spend time with? How would you handle the awkwardness of sitting in a restaurant, or a bar, by yourself? (newsflash: this last part = always awkward, no matter how many times you do it, lol).
It took me several years after studying abroad until I finally ripped the bandaid off and began challenging myself to start going places again despite the fear of going alone (have you seen my 5-day romp around Tasmania? THAT was a crazy solo trip!). What I’ve found is that there are so many ways to solo travel these days, it makes it almost impossible to not find a method that works for you. I hope the ideas I share below help encourage you to give solo travel a try. There’s too much of the world to see, and too much to be experienced, for you to sit around waiting for someone to tag along (can I get an amen?).
7 Simple Ways to Ease Into Solo Travel If It’s Your First Time
1. Start With Your Hometown
Before going halfway across the world by yourself, you can test the waters by starting closer to home! Get a taste of solo travel by exploring your home town, taking a short road trip, or even taking yourself out for lunch or dinner. It may seem insignificant, but getting comfortable with doing things on your own is a huge factor in whether or not you’ll enjoy doing it abroad.
I personally know how awkward or bizarre it can feel sitting solo at a bar or a restaurant. I can say with complete honesty that no matter how much you do this, it never really gets ‘less awkward,’ but you will get more comfortable winging it solo. Some things that help me include sitting at the bar or finding a window-facing seat (both options are essentially designed for solo diners), bringing a book, or even answering emails while I’m eating alone. And, if a conversation with a kind stranger comes my way, I usually will embrace it unless I get creeper vibes.
2. Visit a Friend or a Family Member In a New City
Do you have a friend or a family member living in another part of the world? Pay them a visit and explore the city or country they live in while you’re at it. At the very least, you’ll get a familiar face to have dinner with and show you around town. At most, you’ll get a place to stay and a travel buddy to spend your days with!
3. Piggyback Off an Existing Trip
If you have a trip coming up with friends or family, it could be a great opportunity to spend a couple of extra days after the trip exploring a nearby place solo. This way, you’ve already conquered the act of getting there (which can sometimes be the most daunting part) and had a chance to familiarize yourself with the area. I did this last year when I went to Australia, by hitching a quick 5-day solo trip to Tasmania onto my 2-week stay in the Gold Coast with my parents.
4. Extend a Work Trip
If you’re lucky, you may have a 9-to-5 that involves some travel. In my case, I sometimes go to Utah for work meetings, maybe about once a year. Every single time I go, I try to extend my trip by even just one or two days after my meetings are over, so that I can go off and explore on my own. I have fallen in love with Utah, and would have never known just how beautiful this state was if it wasn’t for these work trips.
When you start planning for your next work trip and are looking up flights, take a look at whether flights will cost the same if you come home a few days later (since your company is likely paying for your flights on work-related trips, this is important!). If you have evidence to support how flying home on a Sunday will cost your company no more than it would if you flew home on a Thursday, they likely won’t say no! But of course, you’ll almost definitely need to cover the costs of accommodation on the extra days yourself – which is, honestly, a small hit to your wallet, considering the fact that your transportation costs would be covered.
Sites I use to compare flight costs:
Find the cheapest flight deals across multiple airlines
Find flight deals by destination, or, if you aren’t sure where you want to go, you can use the search engine’s ‘Anywhere’ option to show you different destinations you can visit on your budget
Popular tool for comparing prices on flights, accommodations, and more
Another flight finder that I like to use to compare routes. If you input your origin and leave the destination field blank, Google Flights pulls up a map that shows you different destinations and the estimated costs of round-trip airfare, which I love.
Tip: before I book anything, I typically look at what the cheapest flights are using the above resources and then go directly to that airline’s website to compare prices and see if there are any special deals going on that these third party sites didn’t list. Also, this is a good way to make sure you know exactly what you’re paying for (some discount flight costs don’t include things like checked luggage, seat selection, or meals).
5. Fill Your Days With Tours, Group Activities, or Bar Crawls
Does the thought of long stretches of solo time in a foreign place sound a little intimidating? Some people crave this kind of adventure, but for many, being alone and unfamiliar with where you are and what to do can be daunting, and is one of the biggest reasons why people avoid solo travel. Instead of going it alone, fill your itinerary with day tours, group activities, and bar crawls. These kinds of activities take the guesswork out of navigating a new city, provide a sense of belonging, and serve as the perfect way to meet other travelers and make new friends along the way.
Resources for Tour & Activity Searching:
6. Try Out the Hostel Life
Hostels are a polarizing subject. In college, I loved hostels because they are a dirt-cheap option for lodging, and they are set up to help you mingle with fellow travelers. Now that I am a little older, I like to pay a little more for private accommodations because I’m a fan of having my own bathroom and my own space. That said, hostels can be a fantastic opportunity to meet other adventure-seekers, compare itineraries, and maybe even find new experiences that you otherwise would have never heard of. At most hostels, you have the option of bunking in 4, 8, or even 12-person rooms that are either co-ed or same-sex. If you’re like me and prefer your own space, some hostels do have the option to book a private room with a private or a shared bathroom. Plan to spend as much time as possible hanging out in the common areas of the hostel and chatting it up with other people!
Hostel booking sites to use:
7. Sign Up for a Group Trip
Some people love group trips and swear by them, others are unsure, and question what it’s like to be in a foreign place lumped together with a group of strangers. After trying out a group trip for myself, let me tell you: it was incredible. Signing up for a group trip has SO many benefits when you want to go somewhere but none of your friends are able to tag along. You get a guaranteed support system, you likely have a pretty cool itinerary already figured out for you, and you’d be surprised how quickly friendships can form when you’re halfway across the world dancing to songs sung in a different language while sipping on cocktails you can’t pronounce the names of.
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Have you traveled solo before, or are you thinking of giving it a shot for the first time? Tell me where you’ve been, or where you want to go, in the comments section below!